Your fingers are about to start conversations your mouth never quite dared to.
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This is a growing collection of tools, links, reads, watches, questions, and games designed to keep the conversation going. Think of it as a starter kit for anyone who wants to understand the issue better, open up tricky chats with friends, or simply explore what healthier, happier masculinity might look like.
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And this isn’t just for men. Women, we need you too. Changing the stigma around men’s bodies is a team effort, and your perspectives, support, and curiosity matter just as much.
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We’re here to make our tiny shinies into a big conversation.
A little light, shining on the bits we usually keep in the dark.
Read all about it!
What About Men is a phenomenal book on the issue. The issue that men don't talk about mens issues enough and the problems it leads to. This is a book for everyone you know. For you, for mothers, brothers, sisters, sons, fathers, friends, partners, teachers, neighbours, uncles. Literally anyone with a penis, and any person who has ever met one.
It’s insightful without being preachy, confronting without being heavy, and it will leave you thinking, laughing, and crucially, talking.
Thank you Caitlin Moran.
BBC Documentary - Me & My Penis
If talking about penises feels awkward, this documentary sprints straight into the awkwardness, does a cartwheel, and invites you to join in. Me and My Penis is one of the most honest, vulnerable, unfiltered conversations about men’s bodies ever put on screen, and that’s exactly why it belongs here.
You meet men of all ages, races, and backgrounds sharing real stories about sex, shame, pleasure, infertility, trauma, mental health, masculinity, and everything in between. No bravado. No pixelation. No nonsense. Just the truth, the messy, human, relatable kind most men never say out loud.
It even made history as the first time an erect penis appeared on UK broadcast TV. A small moment for television, a huge moment for breaking taboos.
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Available to watch on BBC Select here
Documentary - My Penis & I
This documentary follows 27-year-old Lawrence Barraclough, whose 3.5-inch erection has caused him years of anxiety, avoidance, and silence. The exact stuff we’re trying to dismantle. Instead of hiding, he does something radical: he talks. To everyone. His girlfriend, his mates, other men, porn stars, a urologist, even Cynthia Plaster Caster.
What unfolds is an honest, awkward, funny, and deeply human look at what penis size actually means, versus what men have been taught to fear.
Get the conversation going
These questions are aimed at men, in particular, straight men. The people who despite having been born with a penis have least experience with other penises. Here are some questions to get the conversation started.
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Please give feedback so we can keep improving these questions and help improve the conversation.
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Have you ever thought about how many penises Michelangelo probably saw?
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When was the first time you actually saw another penis in real life?
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Compare and contrast, your new cockring to your own cock.
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How many penises do you think you’ve actually seen in real life (and how many were on a screen)?
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When was the last time you actually talked to another man about your body?
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Why do you think it’s easier to draw a cock on a wall than talk about one in real life?
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Have you ever noticed how women can talk about their bodies openly and wondered why men don’t?
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When was the last time you went to the doctor about penis problems?
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Have you ever felt proud of your body in a moment that surprised you?
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What's your favourite thing about your body?
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If your cock could give a TED Talk, what would its message be?
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What’s something you’ve always wondered whether women actually care about?
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What do you wish women understood about male insecurities?
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What would help you feel more confident with a partner?
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If laughter really is the best medicine, what’s one thing about your cock you can laugh about?
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Has this made you think, or laugh, in a new way about something you’ve always kept private?
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What’s the strangest piece of “advice” you were ever given about sex or size?
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What would a “healthier” masculinity look like to you?
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What part of this conversation feels hardest for you to articulate?
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Do you think this project could help men talk more openly about their bodies?
Have you ever
Never have I ever is a great game, when played openly. We're flipping the script a bit, so it's a bit easier to get the game for this context. It's a way of getting to know a group. We've taken the familiar format and written questions designed for groups to laugh, and bond, and quietly realise just how normal they all are.
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Read the questions allowed and raise a hand, or a glass, if these apply to you.
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Please give feedback so we can keep improving these questions and help improve the conversation.
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Have you ever measured it using something absolutely not meant for measuring?
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Have you ever given it a nickname you instantly regretted?
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Have you ever panicked about something that turned out to be completely normal?
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Have you ever felt personally betrayed by poor sex education?
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Have you ever discovered a body insecurity was incredibly common?
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Have you ever been surprised by how honest women are about men’s bodies?
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Have you ever thought, “If I had something funny to break the ice, I’d actually talk about this”?
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Have you ever realised someone else was just as nervous as you?
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Have you ever realised how little men actually see other real bodies?
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Have you ever felt more comfortable after someone else was honest first?
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Have you ever thought your confidence would improve if you spoke honestly about your body?
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Have you ever felt weirdly comforted knowing everyone is just as confused?
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Have you ever discovered women are far more relaxed about penises than men expect?
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Have you ever been shocked by how little we’re taught about bodies?
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Have you ever heard a man worry about something and thought, “That’s totally normal”?
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Have you ever wondered why men don’t compare notes like women do?
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Have you ever googled something because a man was too embarrassed to?
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Have you ever reassured someone about something that didn’t need reassurance?
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Have you ever been too nervous to speak to a doctor about your penis?
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Have you ever discovered how wildly different bodies actually look?
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Have you ever believed something from porn that later turned out to be nonsense?
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Have you ever wished you could get a second opinion but didn’t dare ask?
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Have you ever compared yourself to something you saw in porn or Hollywood?
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Have you ever assumed something was normal just because it was in porn?
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Have you ever watched a scene and thought it looked painful, not sexy?
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Have you ever been shocked the first time you saw someone else’s real anatomy?
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Have you ever had a group chat that was more educational than sex ed?
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Have you ever compared experiences with friends just to sanity-check things?
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Have you ever seen one that actually looked like a textbook diagram?
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Have you ever had a late-night panic about something ordinary?
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Have you ever wished men talked about their bodies the way women do?
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Have you ever had a moment where it suddenly changed its mind?
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Have you ever said nothing because you didn’t know how to start the conversation?
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Have you ever been surprised to learn what partners really think vs what men assume?
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Have you ever pretended you knew something about sex long before you actually did?
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Have you ever been shocked by how much you changed during puberty?
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Have you ever apologised for something that didn’t require an apology?
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Have you ever hidden insecurity with a joke?
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Have you ever felt unexpectedly proud of your body in an unexpected situation?
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Have you ever assumed a partner expected something they absolutely didn’t?